tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5482668939889334761.post8223265531188693645..comments2023-08-20T01:51:59.477-07:00Comments on Total Survivalist Libertarian Bitch Fest: It takes a village!Maggyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18429301039175279522noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5482668939889334761.post-86192600326630331152011-07-12T13:33:53.184-07:002011-07-12T13:33:53.184-07:00Thanks Stephen! My BIL has had to have a complete ...Thanks Stephen! My BIL has had to have a complete open and honest policy after his ex told some lies to the kids which means that as he has filed for their mother to pay child support he has allowed them to read the papers exchanged with her lawyers. While I think children don't need to know everything I see his reasoning but this case is just killing them. Their mother spouts nothing but harmful lies to try to get out of child support and these kids are so full of anger right now. It saddens me to no end. The divorce has devastated the family and it has been years now. <br /><br />I miss the days when it was all about lifting each other up. I ache for these kids and can only hope that my husband and I help them to see that not all marriages are bad and not all Mom's are hurtful.Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12764424023850012841noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5482668939889334761.post-11531256592406058042011-07-12T10:38:09.066-07:002011-07-12T10:38:09.066-07:00Without using Madam Clinton's famous usage of ...Without using Madam Clinton's famous usage of 'it takes a village' I do so agree. You seem strong, intelligent and, at least to me, you are on the right path. Children need family, period. Divorce destroys a child's world. This is the very reason I take such strong interest in the lives of my grandchildren; they need love but more than anything, time and interest in their daily lives. It will pay off. God bless.Stephenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09752401490789789451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5482668939889334761.post-34927816384345434512011-07-10T18:13:07.180-07:002011-07-10T18:13:07.180-07:00Our oldest has seen some hard struggles worked thr...Our oldest has seen some hard struggles worked through. Our youngest has had it easier. Both though have boundaries and chores and rules. Of course with Monkey chores are often helping me or someone bigger. They also know they can ask any question and get a truthful answer. They can discuss any topic and we will always listen. That is worth more than gold.Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12764424023850012841noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5482668939889334761.post-59260512032091687182011-07-10T17:29:49.911-07:002011-07-10T17:29:49.911-07:00Agreed. Kids need direction and to see that probl...Agreed. Kids need direction and to see that problems can be worked out between people. Kids are being shown that quitting is an easy way to deal with issues. It will affect them throughout their entire life. I've always believed that kids need discipline and structure. They will fight you (of course), but they will hate you later if you try to be their friend and provide no structure early in their lives.45erhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05397455410329074837noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5482668939889334761.post-71743712213386863472011-07-10T13:32:42.090-07:002011-07-10T13:32:42.090-07:00That is a village I can live with (and in)... :-) ...That is a village I can live with (and in)... :-) People change, lives change, but good constants can give direction that lasts a lifetime!Old NFOhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16404197287935017147noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5482668939889334761.post-5603478371110407082011-07-10T10:25:07.309-07:002011-07-10T10:25:07.309-07:00As her Aunt all I can do is love and help her to f...As her Aunt all I can do is love and help her to feel beautiful no matter what. If I were her Mom the only things I would have fought over are her piercing/gaged ears. It happened on her mom's watch so the damadge was done once her dad got her but her ears will take surgery to fix and her piercings won't close either. That will be something she regrets one day but all I can do is love her and help her when she needs it and talk to my girls about self expression. Bug is old enough to discuss is so I have told her how piercing can be a permanent mistake but if she wants to color her hair and change her clothes we can do that. I want her to explore herself and her expression openly but not with consequences she will regret long term.Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12764424023850012841noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5482668939889334761.post-81399833949952699312011-07-10T08:29:01.314-07:002011-07-10T08:29:01.314-07:00No marriage is without it's ups and downs. I w...No marriage is without it's ups and downs. I will have been married 29 years come Dec 3. My wife and I have a good relationship, though it has changed some over the years as we got older. Two people can't live together without some friction. My daughter was a "goth" for a couple of years. We just went along and she outgrew it. Now she has a perfectly normal life. I think everybody has to find their own way, and for me to have tried to dissuade her through edicts would only have pushed her away. You seem to be ok with the goth aspect so it may not be an issue for you. We wrestled with it.Arsenius the Hermithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08849281122788247240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5482668939889334761.post-29119151647168231492011-07-10T07:02:38.109-07:002011-07-10T07:02:38.109-07:00Thanks Violet. I wish more parents fought harder. ...Thanks Violet. I wish more parents fought harder. Divorce went from a last resort to an easy out and kids and even those in the relationship deserve better. Makes me sad.Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12764424023850012841noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5482668939889334761.post-79935755639793144622011-07-09T21:46:09.574-07:002011-07-09T21:46:09.574-07:00Your kids and your niece and nephew are lucky to h...Your kids and your niece and nephew are lucky to have the two of you.<br /><br />I wish all parents fought as hard to stay happy together and to stay for their kids.Violethttp://www.knightsanddreams.comnoreply@blogger.com