tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5482668939889334761.post8742692668947996488..comments2023-08-20T01:51:59.477-07:00Comments on Total Survivalist Libertarian Bitch Fest: Bullying, an epidemic.Maggyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18429301039175279522noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5482668939889334761.post-71764554401832689572010-04-13T13:05:23.576-07:002010-04-13T13:05:23.576-07:00Good point TOR. A lot of kids just don't see a...Good point TOR. A lot of kids just don't see a way to stand up and find solutions for their own safety let alone helping with another. I wish that there was a way to teach all kids about equality and personal rights and safety but as of yet there is no magic button. *Sigh*Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12764424023850012841noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5482668939889334761.post-29129449970113079462010-04-11T13:38:09.769-07:002010-04-11T13:38:09.769-07:00some kids are rotten little horrible people. They ...some kids are rotten little horrible people. They always have been and always will be. I got really teased a few times. However if everyone who really teases you gets walloped in the nose pretty quickly those folks leave you alone. <br /><br />I don't think it is so much that kids are teasing more but that other kids are less able to deal with it than they used to be.Ryanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09612373437033635765noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5482668939889334761.post-7920456503035505532010-04-08T17:02:20.226-07:002010-04-08T17:02:20.226-07:00And now your comment is back. Ahhh the quirks of t...And now your comment is back. Ahhh the quirks of the internet!Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12764424023850012841noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5482668939889334761.post-73071161441991931162010-04-08T17:01:51.188-07:002010-04-08T17:01:51.188-07:00Brad, I saw your comment. It double posted and whe...Brad, I saw your comment. It double posted and when I deleted one they both disappeared!! So sorry. Thank you though for your comment. I agree that the pressure we put teens under can be a huge contributing factor in bullying. When we force them to compete and remind them to be the best they fight to do so and in the end that causes more harm than good. Sure competition can be healthy but making the winners the vaulted and valued citizens only makes those who didn't "win" feel even more alone and left out.Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12764424023850012841noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5482668939889334761.post-56526331032947391432010-04-07T07:54:26.768-07:002010-04-07T07:54:26.768-07:00It was Mary Jo, in my class, in rural Iowa, that t...It was Mary Jo, in my class, in rural Iowa, that tried to end herself. About 44 years ago, now. No one claimed to understand why.<br /><br />My parents happened to move to a nearby town, eight short miles away. That school and town were welcoming, were a community with the heart the first place claimed. And bullying wasn't a daily presence, as at the first school. Football at the second school wasn't big, either. Surprising, that.<br /><br />Except I don't think it is surprising. In my time in the US Navy I was seldom attached to a real "Gung Ho" outfit. It seems that pressure for grades, team sports, or almost any other "Gung Ho" effort - results in denigrating mere human feelings and nurturing your peers, instead of climbing on anyone that you can.<br /><br />Perhaps if it were forbidden for parents to attend, or be told the scores, of school activities, if test scores and scholarships were not allowed to be shared at home, we could maybe let parents focus on what is important in their children's lives.<br /><br />Because I really think that parents that haven't learned how are failing to provide the structure at home that should be the first line of defense, to nurture children and even maturing adults.<br /><br />Phoebe's school should face a serious and in-depth review, for systematic abuse. Knowing there were incidents, they should be aware they encourage bullying when they fail to address the underlying causes. Jersey rules - nothing is wrong if you don't get caught - is a horrible form of situational ethics. Administrators and teachers are in short supply, and with the antics in Washington D.C, I don't see hordes of motivated and prepared people choosing to make education their life's work. But their needs to be an assessment of what "works" in bringing up children, beyond grades and test scores.<br /><br />I am sorry for how much happier your childhood, and Phoebe's, should have been.Brad K.https://www.blogger.com/profile/18378344866487206569noreply@blogger.com