Friday, March 5, 2010

Hair-pulling Mommy moments

Bug is sick. She has this virus thing. Hubs is sick with it again. I have it too but I rarely throw up so mine is just terrible tummy pain. Sooo I kept Bug home from school today and told her she needed to rest as much as she could. She hates that. All day she threw fits about where to lay, what to watch, what to eat. She is very like her father in that she gets horribly grouchy when she is sick. Then poor little Squeak is teething. She has always been a very miserable teether . Tears, whiny, and miserable no matter what. First she wants to be held then she wants down then she wants food then she throws it at me. Between the two girls I was about to rip out my hair. Add that I feel pretty miserable myself and it made for a very long very moody day. Luckily Squeak is in her crib sound asleep and Bug is in her room watching her Friday Disney shows. I am going to take this much-needed opportunity and curl up with a glass of juice and my book.

What do you do on those days you feel like you are going crazy and all you want to do is scream and hide from the world?


  1. If your husband is allowing his misbehavior when sick to set an example for his daughters - shame on him.

    Children learn by example. Duh. They give wonderful opportunities to learn grace, generosity of spirit, and patience.

    When sick, they still have to be held under reasonable discipline. Bad behavior is bad behavior, no excuses. You don't have to be stricter than usual, but don't let Bug stretch the limits - that will surface again when she isn't sick - and likely when she is dating. Don't think of telling her not to whine as stressing a sick child, think of it as teaching about dating, "When you tell him no the first time - expect and demand respect and cooperation."

    And, maybe, reading together might be a possibility. Some of Tamora Pierce's books start with ten year olds, and are written for preteen and YA readers.

    And do recall the successful teacher's observation, that keeping focus and peace in the classroom includes walking within five feet of every student, every few minutes. Too much distance invites loss of focus, talking with neighbors and other misbehavior. Don't hover when they are engaged in a task, but don't give them too long, either.

    Do you sew, to make or repair clothes? Crochet? Whittle or decoupage? Have any seeds to get started before garden season, or other chores or crafts to share with a confined child (or husband!). Idle hands, and all that. Plus, constructively spending time together is a gift you can give. Even when it gets work out of them!

  2. For me the frustration was not in their behavior because none of it was out of the ordinary or inappropriate. They are children. My issues stemmed from feeling ill myself and from not being able to do anything to make either girl feel better besides hold them. I am a caregiver in all aspects of my life so when I am unable to do that I have a rough time.


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