Thursday, June 23, 2011

Xenogenic? Why yes I am.

I have a smartphone. I am the geek in our house so Hubby loves getting me gadgets and they get used LOL. My phone has 2 screens of educational things for the girls including a couple different word of the day type applications. The word of the day yesterday for the app was xenogenic. It means to be completely different from either parent, or from the source of an object's creation. As usual Bug read it and rolled her eyes a bit but I had to chuckle a bit. If ever a word fit me it is this one.

My biological mother left a long time ago and I am better for it. The one goal I had as I thought about being a woman, wife, and mother was to be her opposite. She is an addict and to this day has not kicked her many habits. My younger brother and I are very lucky our dad took us and left when he did.

I am a lot like my dad was at my age. Outdoor oriented with a love of learning. I think the biggest difference is he was just having me where I have a decade of good marriage and a 9 year old. So I am more family based. Now he is happily married and very successful but his interests are completely different than mine. Hunting is not his thing and the idea of planning is more to about making sure he has the financial security needed for a comfortable retirement. Good goals of course but our thinking just differs. I am also a very emotional person. I cry when I am mad or sad or happy. It has made father/daughter bonding challenging sometimes.

I think being the oddball homebody quiet one has probably hurt some relationships. My dad's side are very smart, educated well spoken and my biological mother's side just doesn't know me. I am very lucky in my in-laws and in my adoptive family and friends. Even if I am an oddball they still love me for it and work with it. I love all sides of my family, I do, I just wish I knew how to help them see that just because I am a stay-at-home shooting, hunting, anti social goof doesn't mean I don't love them. I would move mountains for them.

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