Sunday, October 9, 2011

The OTHER reason October is important to me.

October 15 is National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Day. Many who read the blog know my story. If you are new though I will share my thoughts again.

I have been blessed with 4 babies! They light my life. They are my world. 2 of them I lost during pregnancy. As my health journey has progressed I have learned that often FMS women have difficulty in pregnancy and that my lack of progesterone is not to surprising once you know I have FMS. Yay! I look around me and know so many women who have lost babies. I know their heart break, their fear as they try again. I know the anguish. Last year Faces of Loss, Faces of Hope started the I Am The Face campaign to help raise awareness and remove the silence surrounding pregnancy and infant loss. I eagerly joined that movement. I love Faces of Loss, Faces of Hope. They provide support online and locally to so many who are now facing loss. I also very much want the world to talk to those of us who deal with this. We want to remember our babies. We want to smile about them and cry about them and be free to talk about them and the pregnancy. There were good moments for all of us. So please spread the hope and the word. 1 out of 4 women will face this huge loss. They need our love and our kindness. They need our hugs. They need to be able to talk about it without being hidden away.


  1. That's a very hard thing to deal with. Hard to even think about it.

  2. It is hard to deal with and think about. I know for me I hid for weeks after. The first time I broke up with JW and disappeared from life for a while. Even seeing him was to much. I didn't want to let him help me. Our second loss I was pretty darn near suicidal. We had been trying for years to get pregnant again. This time his support and sheltering of me was worth more than anything. I did hit a point where I needed to talk about it. I needed to think about my babies or wonder aloud "What if?" but most people avoided those conversations. I think most women need to be able to talk about it at some point. No loss is easy but it doesn't turn us into lepers.

    TinCan - Give her an extra squeeze for me!

    Hermit - I know your sweet wife had her losses as well. Make sure this month to give her an extra hug for me.


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